Time is a precious commodity

 "Let’s appreciate where we are. Let’s not wish our lives away" -Julianne Moore in Instyle, October 2013

As you get older and time begins to get away from you, you start to ask yourself if you’re spending your time wisely. My birthday is on Sunday and I will be turning 26, so time and aging is something that’s been on my mind lately.

Time is the most important commodity that human beings possess. As morbid as it is to think, our time on this Earth will eventually expire and we will be gone. You could be be gone tonight, next week, in a year or decades from now. No one knows exactly how much time you have left to live and that makes it all the more precious. Therefore, it is vital that you spend your time doing things you enjoy and being with people you love. Don’t waste your time doing things that don’t bring you joy and add value to your life.

Because time is the most precious commodity in your life-and once spent is gone forever-it is the best gift you can give to those you love. As your children grow, they may not remember all of the toys and treats you bought them but they will always remember how you spent time with them and how you made them feel loved.

As you get older, you stop buying gifts for family and friends and instead spend time having a meal or doing something fun together. That’s not to discredit the excitement of a receiving a gift (or balloons!) but the gifts are not as important as the time you spend with those you care about. Yesterday my sister asked what I wanted for my birthday and I couldn’t name a single thing (probably because when I want something I buy it right away). I started thinking about it and I realized I’m beginning to feel the way my mom does; I want a birthday card (and balloons) and simply to spend time with her doing something we both enjoy.

It is not enough to tell the people we care about that we love them, you must show them.

Don’t air your dirty laundry in public

 "I need you to say, ‘Ryan you have my permission to call (whatever his name is) on KIIS FM."

You’re missing out on some major early morning entertainment if you’ve never heard of ‘Ryan’s Roses’. If you listen to KIIS FM, then you already know what I’m talking about, but if you don’t have a clue, read on.

I’m going to introduce you to the concept of Ryan’s Roses. According to Ryan Seacrest, ‘It’s a public service for men or women who think they are being cheated on by their significant other’. Basically Ryan has Patty call and offer a free dozen roses that can be sent to whomever they want, all they need is the name of the person, a quick note and an address and the flowers will get delivered that same day. Patty tells them that there’s no catch, the roses are free and all that she asks in return is a good Yelp review or a shout-out on social media. Sounds like a good deal, especially nowadays with how important social media is for businesses to be successful and stay relevant. The catch, obviously, is that the poor cheating-most likely-guy or girl will be caught red-handed if they send the flowers to anyone other than the person that asked Ryan to make the call.

Now you can imagine the crazy responses and conversations that come as a result of these ‘Roses’ calls. Generally, the significant other sends the flowers to someone other than their partner and either admits to cheating or blatantly tries to lie their way out of being caught. Sometimes they send the flowers to their partner and every so often they refuse the offer and thinks it’s a scam.
Sending the flowers to someone else, depending on the note in the card, doesn’t prove they’re cheating. Sending the flowers to their significant other doesn’t prove they’re not cheating. And refusing to send them at all just proves they’re not gullible and not immediately trusting of some random person on the phone that you never gave your number to.

The saddest part of the whole thing is that in almost every situation there is a major lack of communication. You found a pair of panties that aren’t yours in your laundry that you think belong to your 3x a week cleaning lady, and instead of asking your husband who they belong to, you decide that broadcasting your issues to the world (or at least a huge number of Southern Californians) is the answer to find out if he’s cheating. If you ask him about it, he feeds you a somewhat far-fetched story and you still have a deep in your gut feeling that something’s going on, then maybe you could resort to Ryan’s Roses. But until you’ve attempted to talk to him about whatever is bothering you, you’re probably only going to make it worse by putting him unwillingly on the radio and you’ll likely end up embarrassing yourself.

Lesson of the story, don’t air your dirty laundry in public. Learn how to have a conversation and communicate, no matter how delicate the situation might be. But hey, their humiliation is my morning entertainment, so keep it coming. If you can’t convince people to make good decisions with their lives, at least you can enjoy a good laugh over the pathetic nature of it all and hope that you didn’t just witness the beginning of someone’s world crumbling to pieces.

Living in the Moment

Do you ever feel like you’re just waiting for life to happen to you rather than going out and living in the moment?

Hi, my name is Arielle and I finally decided to stop waiting for life to happen and actually do something that I’ve been wanting to do; I’m going to start a blog about my life.  I often joke that I’m culturally deprived but when I take a moment to think about it, I’d like to work on becoming culturally cultivated. I’m perfectly happy with the way I am-in fact, many would argue that I’m always happy-but I’d like to take a step back and analyze the way I view the world. There are already a plethora of fashion, food and fascinating blogs on the web. What I’m here to offer is a lifestyle Style blog; I’m thinking a bit of a mash-up of reviews, recommendations and remarkable daily occurrences. Join me on my journey if you’re interested. Maybe we can help each other broaden our cultural perspectives of the world.

Cheers,

Arielle